Have you ever wondered why things seem like they’re always stagnant? Like you can’t seem to get your life together, and you’re always thinking negatively about life? Could it be possible you’ve lost yourself, and don’t know where to begin? The importance of getting to know yourself is very important for the simple fact; you’ll become someone you don’t know as someone who was created by those around you. Once you’ve lost yourself you will go through trials and tribulations trying to figure out what’s going on with you. You’ll have experiences mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and sometimes physically. Even though a lot of people go through this, there are some who don’t make it through this.
A Comfort zone is a place that will cause anyone to feel stagnant. Being in this place causes you to become so comfortable that you don’t realize life is passing you by. Before you know it you come to realize that your life is passing you by, because you’re afraid to take the risk of stepping outside your comfort zone. You must get out of your comfort zone to live a life that you feel you deserve. Constantly living in your comfort zone limits you. Comfort zones sometimes cause people to lose their minds and become very lost in their heads, which causes mental discomfort. Your thoughts start to go all over the place. Not saying your comfort zone is a bad thing, yet we feel so safe there because we don’t realize we’re making it unsafe for ourselves. Mentally when you realize what’s going on, and if you catch it on time, you’ve probably missed out on numerous opportunities.
Learning to control your mind will not only help you to understand your situation better because you’re able to think clearer. Meditation will help you control your thoughts, as well as the other benefits. Once you leave your comfort zone you’re going to need to meditate. There will be a million and one thoughts going through your head. You’re going to want to learn to control them. No one wants to manifest more misery, because not knowing yourself can lead to you having some toxic traits. Knowing how powerful your mind is, will help you through this. Sometimes our mind will get the best of us, and our thoughts take over. When that happens, we lose sight of what’s real and what’s not. Therefore, meditation is extremely important. We must control our minds and keep a hold on reality. Living in a fantasy world is okay, although, we must not move there.
There are a lot of us living off toxic traits and are unaware. Learning your toxic traits will not only balance you, assist in grounding you, it will also help you to understand your patterns and understand your decision-making better. When you get to the point where you’re ready to start your journey, your toxic traits will start to become obvious to you. This will also bring the right people into your life. Learning your toxic traits is a form of self-care. Even though there are individuals who thrive off their toxic traits, morally you shouldn’t rebuild yourself in this manner.
Everyone thinks that self-care is taking a bath with pretty flowers and drinking wine and candles. When in reality, self-care is you doing something to better yourself. It could be setting a budget, working out, etc. Self-care is anything that you do for yourself to improve yourself. Taking the time to care for yourself mentally is self-care. Five minutes of meditation is self-care. Learning your toxic traits is a form of self-care that is often misunderstood, yet so important. Setting a budget and saving money is a form of self-care that will also help you on this journey. Self-care is about taking care of yourself and getting yourself together in every aspect of your life. Taking a hot milk bubble bath with fruit and flowers is very beautiful and relaxing yes, and also a form of self-care. Please don’t limit your self-care to baths and candles. There is so much more to it and once you open yourself up to self-care and self-improvement, you will experience the opening of a whole new world. You’ll experience things you haven’t before and learn things about yourself. It is an amazing thing, and you’ll love and appreciate yourself so much more for doing this.
Learning to save your money will help you build that life you feel you deserve. Living outside your comfort zone indeed is scary which is why you will need an emergency fund. Because it can be unpredictable and you don’t want to be caught off guard. It’s better to be financially prepared. Budgeting, saving money, and living within your means will get you to where you want to be. This also teaches you self-control. You can also take this time to rebrand and rebuild yourself. Rebranding or rebuilding yourself will give you that confidence boost that you will need. Sometimes something as small as buying a new outfit, with matching shoes and a purse will have you feeling like a new woman. You don’t have to spend a large amount of money to do this. This can be accomplished by shopping smart. There’s nothing wrong with shopping on a budget, it will actually save you a lot of money in the long run.
In addition to making other changes such as mental and financial, let’s rebuild ourselves as well. Love yourself. Learn yourself again. Learn what makes you happy; learn what makes your eyes sparkle. Receiving gifts from others can make you happy, although giving yourself gifts is much more satisfying because you know this is something for a fact that you like or love. Not something someone feels you deserve. I understand that loving yourself will be the hardest thing for you to do. I was depressed, I didn’t care how I looked, and self-care was nonexistent. I didn’t care. I felt I was constantly being judged. I tried to fake a smile every day. I didn’t have sense enough to meditate, budget, or anything that made me happy. Eventually, I made time for what made everyone else happy. I was no longer myself; I was the person that was created by those around me. I only responded to their needs. My needs didn’t matter. For one, I didn’t know what I liked anymore. Only what others liked, because I answered their desires and needs so much that’s the only thing I knew. Until one day I was sitting on the couch, and I fell asleep. I remember this dream because this dream was the start of my journey. When I fell asleep, I remember I was at a waterfall in Hawaii. (I used to live in Hawaii and there was a secluded beach with a waterfall.) This was a beautiful waterfall. While I was staring into the water, my shadow spoke to me. My shadow asked me, who are you? I replied I don’t know. I was asked again and the only thing I could say was my name because I didn’t know who I was. I began to cry because even when I was talking to myself, I couldn’t answer a simple question. While crying, I let out a scream and it felt as if I had just cleansed my soul. That day was the start of my self-love journey. It was a hard journey. It was scary at times because I didn’t have a plan. All I knew was this was something I needed to do because I needed to know who I was. I started meditating. When I started meditating, it opened my mind to the point where I felt like I was in a different world. It was so beautiful. I started to control my thoughts. At the time I didn’t have money saved for this journey, and I knew I needed this, so I worked with what I had. I started to perform self-care by saying no. I stopped making myself so available to others. Yes, it did hurt me in the beginning, as it was either them or me, and I had to choose myself. I haven’t regretted my decision. When I got a job, I started saving money, budgeting, and started shopping smart. I didn’t make reckless decisions. I inner stand that there was more to life than being the doormat to others.
Doing what’s best for you should always be your first priority. No one should come before self. Putting others before you will cause you to forget yourself. Budget, please budget this is very important. Save your money, do a little shopping, and shop smart. Don’t be embarrassed about using coupons. Meditate to control your mind. You’ll need it on this journey. More than likely you’re going to lose a lot of people on this journey. So be prepared. Everyone is not meant to go with you on this journey. Don’t be mad, it’s okay to be sad. Some won’t understand, and as long as you inner stand that - you got this, you’ll get through this.
